17 April 2015

Song of the Day

My Heart Will Go On as performed by Me First and the Gimme Gimmes

16 April 2015

Song of the Day

Strange Charm by Hank Green

My Great-Uncle was head of CERN for a while (yes, the nerd is strong with this family) so quarks have a very special place in my heart.

15 April 2015

Song of the Day

I"m So Lonesome I Could Cry as performed by Me First and the Gimme Gimmes.

14 April 2015


Mostly, things are going well. I feel like this bit of sunshine has really helped us all get going, and get excited about things.  The kids are doing swim lessons soon. We joined the Y which will, in theory really help me get my workouts prioritized. Charlie is doing a fun pottery after-school program which is a big deal for her, very much outside her comfort zone in terms of "schedule deviation."  Our 4-H group is up and running with a lovely group of kids. Liz is still enjoying preschool and is so ready for Kindergarten next year.  My Jamberry sales are chugging along despite me refusing to participate in the pick-up-artist-style sales methods the company endorses.  Life is good.

 I love that our lives are busy, and fun.  I love that we are busy because we have active ties to this community now.  I volunteered all week at the book fair and actually knew most of the other moms.  I am active at all our local library events, doing lots of volunteer work there and again, I know people!  I am actually able to go places, and do activities without being the odd person out.  While I have never really cared if I was the odd person out, 5 moves in 8 years kind of makes you super comfortable as an outsider, it is refreshing to feel welcome and included.  This is the longest we have lived at one address, ever, and it is really amazing.

But man, I got to tell you, I am tired. Sooooooo tired. Falling asleep on couch at 8pm tired. I am up when Chris gets up at 5:30, that is my "me time."  I read my book, or catch an episode of  whatever horrible TV I am currently binge watching.  Then Charlie's alarm goes off and it is GO GO GO! until 12 hours later when I get the kids to bed (or 17 hours until I get to sleep-ish).  Breakfast, morning routine, bus-stop, housework, Jamberry work, errands, lunch, school-drop off, workout, grab a shower, school-pick-up, repack lunches/snacks, bus-stop, homework, refereeing playtime, dinner, evening activities, baths, bed, more Jamberry work, maybe some blogging/knitting/sewing/reading (never more than one, of course), bed for me, insomnia...rinse and repeat.

It is fun, and being active all the time has really helped with the depression/anxiety that was creeping in at the corners. I understand that this life is a true luxury. Not many in my peer group can be home with kids full-time and be feeling no pressure to rush back to work. I could have much bigger problems than "having so much fun everyday it wear me out," but damn...I need a nap!  I think I need to spend more time actually dreaming while here in the suburban dream.

09 April 2015

Song of the Day

This cover was featured in both Teen Wolf and The Following.  I have terrible taste in TV, the freakier the better!

Bad Moon Rising by Mourning Ritual

08 April 2015

Put that on the Snap-Chat-My-Face-o-Gram...On The Line

The big thing on "The Twitter" today was the Rand Paul promoted tweet looking for donations.  A bold move given

1. How well conservative Twitter campaigns have previously gone


2. That the conservative* platform seems to be relying heavily on the whole "we don't need them new-fangled internets to win this thing...we have values" plan.

None the less, there it was.  In my head this all went down with some ambitious young intern (working for prestige, because bootstraps) said "hey, you know where there are people? Twitter!"  Now, this bright young thing may have missed the point that "people" here means actual people and not the very specific set of desperate traditionalists/super-rich-fundamentalists who go in for the Rand Pauls of the world, but hey, props for trying.  And Mr. Paul, being the super-groovy-hip-dude that he is, went for it.  Now I just get to sit back, and see where this goes.  This election is gonna satirize itself and I can't wait.

In conclusion:

* I acknowledge that the Paul "dynasty" is about being Libertarian and therefore, warriors for freedom. However, since those freedoms are only defined as "things with which white-rich-cisgendered-heterosexual-religious-men are comfortable/things that benefit white-rich-cisgendered-heterosexual-religious-men" I am going to just say...*fart noise*...you are an uber-conservative and no one cares that you think you are clever Mr. Paul. 

Song of The Day

Walk Through The Fire from the "Once More With Feeling" 
episode of Buffy The Vampire Slayer.

07 April 2015

Song of The Day

So, I am sucking at this already, but here is a song to brighten up your Tuesday!

Never Going Back Again by Fleetwood Mac

01 April 2015

Song of the Day

Trying this for April. Hoping to post a song each day this month, just have to get my butt over here and back in the swing of posting!  Mostly this will be an odd collection of songs we like...often chosen by the girls.

Let's open with a upbeat classic: Shake-A-Booty by Hank Green

18 March 2015

Musings on Arrogance

A girlfriend of mine posted this cartoon, which I obviously love for a million reasons.  Just all the yes.  This is what it is totally like to be scientifically minded in a society deeply entrenched in anti-intellectualism.  Pure perfection.

Additionally it got me thinking about the concept of “arrogance.”  It is term that gets thrown around a lot.  I especially see it thrown at women who refuse to let their own expertise be devalued.  Especially if they are unwilling to impart that expertise, on demand, as requested by (mostly) men.

I think it plays into a larger cultural trend.  While I am not saying that science-types are never genuinely arrogant, believe me, white dudes with Ph.Ds. have absolutely cornered the market on asshattery, I do think that we are quick to apply the term arrogant when we mean other things. I think people throw around the word “arrogant” when they really mean:

·         Challenging my worldview without appropriate soothing of my fragile ego.
·         Challenging my position of privilege by implying that my word is not fact due merely to said privilege.
·         Implying that I am not as smart as you about any given thing.
·         Implying that higher education might create a more comprehensive view of a topic (runs contrary to “bootstraps” social theory).
·         Refusing to entertain my nonsense when all facts point in another direction.
·         Refusing to ignore or recant your lived experience just because I don’t want to believe it.
·         Refusing to recant your lived experience in the face of me having personally never experienced it.
·         Unwillingness to engage in “good faith” arguments.
·         Refusing to provide education on demand (often related to “good faith” and “devil’s advocate” arguments).
·         Refusing to engage in “debate” when there is nothing to be debated.
·         Generally just refusing to engage in all the nonsense because it is not your job to hand educate all people, especially those who are willfully choosing to be ignorant of any given topic.
·         Implying that you have a comparable knowledge base even when you are not part of that subject’s privileged club, or an equal in the eyes of the social hierarchy.

The great irony here being that most often, the person tossing around the word “arrogance”probably means “refusal to yield to my own arrogance.”

So yeah, scientist are going to seem arrogant a lot if these are things that we label as arrogance.  I think many “pure” scientists come across as aloof, or un-personable, because they are just not interested in engaging people who have no intention of learning, or who are only there to refute every detail in the name of some myth-based world view.  If I were a climate change scientist, I just could not be bothered.

Also, science is not a service industry.  Your plumber and mechanic may not act like you are a moron (assuming you are male of course) because they want you to come back.  Scientist do not feel that burden.  The science will be here, whether you like it/need it or not. 

So yeah, we scientist are arrogant jerks.  Assuming you define that arrogance as “not acting like your personal ideology concierge.”  And that, my friends, is why I am not in academics anymore. All the goddamn other people.