I can cite two major reasons for this:
- I think that doctors often have no clue what undergoing these procedures is actually like and/or they are not realistic in explaining what it may be like to have said procedure done. Examples include:
- Stripping my membranes when "not in labor enough" with Little Cheese. "Can be very uncomfortable" translated to me sobbing and throwing up in the shower while I had contractions so bad I thought I would surely have that baby right there like one of those women on those horrible TLC shows.
- One NP Commenting that the HG "couldn't be that bad." Enough said.
- I do not have a great record of success with normal responses to pain and local anesthetic. Examples here:
- Having surgery on my toes as a teen where, despite the podiatrist's insistence that I had been given all the local anesthetic safe for someone my age and size, I was still painfully aware of the whole procedure. I only had the second one done because I was given a Valium. (Valium Rocks!)
- My early labor "menstrual cramp-like" contractions came back to back and had me hyperventilating with pain. Clearly my body never got the memo about this part being manageable.
- The local used to place my epidural might as well have been skipped. I could feel it all, a small price to pay for the relief that followed, but still, a datum worth noting.
I am not sure what the solution to this anxiety is, or if there even is a solution, but putting it out there helps a bit. I guess now I can poll the audience and see if this falls under the category of "you are a whiny nut-job" or the category of "yeah...I might ask about that Valium if I were you."